Men, Relationships and Marriage Part I

This is the first of many, because God has convicted me to start preparing for being a Godly wife and mother.

Marriage is something not to be taken lightly, it is a Holy and sacred institution designed by God! I’m so excited to see the heart of my future husband unfold, it will be such a huge blessing for both of us as our hearts begin to intertwine and connect throughout the process of our relationship. My future husband is going to have his faults, as I will have my faults and I will accept him in spite of his faults because I don’t expect him to be perfect because I am far from it. It is only through Christ that I am worthy of anything. I have done nothing worthy of attaining a husband, and shall I get one it will be a huge blessing! I will be so thankful that I have someone to share this life with! A friend put it wisely, “Life is not worth anything if you don't have someone to share it with.” The role of a woman in marriage is to serve and respect her husband, not as an animal or a lower being but out of love and a desire to do so. As the role of a man is to love his wife as Christ loved the church, not because he has to but out of sheer desire to. Girls we have a responsibility to respect our husbands whether we are married now or not. If we are single, we should keep our minds focused on Christ first, and then on our future husband in every relationship we have. When we are in a relationship with someone we need to have the mindset, am I treating him in a way that is honoring my future husband, whether he is going to be my future husband or not? We may end up marrying the person we have a relationship with, or we may not, so we need to conduct ourselves accordingly. This may seem a little different to some people, but we need to remember that if we don’t have respect for our future husband now, how can we expect to truly have it in marriage? Because aren’t we already married to our future spouse in soul? Since God has already predestined us to meet our future spouse our behavior should be that which is honoring to him/her.

Now, some people may view me as an oddity for already preparing for marriage even though I am not in a relationship, but I have looked at the way this world views relationships and this world views things so casually and so ME ME ME, I don’t want my life to be anything like this world’s! My life is Christ’s, and I live to serve Him! If I am called to marriage, and will be blessed with a husband and children, it is only by God’s grace, and not anything I have done, solely by God. I have tried to do relationships the way the world does them and that left me with a fractured heart that only Christ could fix, and He has done a mighty work! So now, I am learning how to be a Godly wife and mother, in preparation for the day that I may become both. Whether or not I become a wife and mother, the virtues that I am learning will help me to serve my brothers in Christ all the more, and to serve Christ and His gospel!